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 Post subject: I know I'm almost never here
PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2012 2:50 pm 
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And usually only show when Gerts has an issue, but just wanted to drop in and talk with other cocker lovers. Dad and I are taking Gerts to the Humane Society to see if it's time to put her down. (it is, dad just put it that way to make me stop crying. :lol3 ) The tumor on her lower lip has gotten bigger over the last year and with my husband and I both losing our jobs, we haven't been able to get it treated. Today she started bleeding (again) and I grabbed a paper towel, picked her up and held the towel to her tumor. I noticed then that the tumor wasn't bleeding, so I pulled her upper lip back and realized that what I've been seeing is literally only half of the tumor, there's a huge mass inside her mouth as well. Combined with the number of tumors she's developed on her body over the last year (at least another 4 I've found) and one moveable mass in her neck about the size of a marble, and the fact that she's 11 1/2 years old, I'm guessing the time has come. So, we'll take her down tomorrow. It sucks, but it's part of being responsible, right? Don't know why I wanted to post this, I just did. Makes me feel better, I suppose. Or not. Can't really tell right now. Thanks if you read this. :sm


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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2012 2:59 pm 
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My 'tar is gone, so here's Gerts in better days:

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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What a sweet girl. I'm so sorry that she is not well and that you are going through this, Rose. It is the hardest decision that I ever had to make, as for many others as well. Just keeping you and Gert in my prayers. :hp

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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I'm so sorry. Gert is such a cute little girl.

Why the humane society instead of the vet? Please do not leave her there. I would see she is put down before I left, if that is what needs to be done.

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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prayers for Gert, you & your family.

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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Prayers to you. It is a hard thing to let our babies go to the next level with God. All dogs do go to heaven so she will be watching and smiling down at you. Keep her in your heart by remembering all the fun times and goofy things your girl did that made you smile. Hugs to you for loving your girl with all your heart.

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
PostPosted: Sun Apr 22, 2012 3:24 pm 
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Debbie, I think the cost may be less than the vet.

Prayers and hugs to you Rose. We are here for you.

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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Yeah, I'm going to call around to the vet, but my husband just got a job after being unemployed for 2 1/2 years and I'm still unemployed and money is tight. If the vets aren't too expensive I'll go that route because I know the Society won't let you be with them when they put them down (at least, that's how it was when we put our lab down about twenty years ago, don't know if it's changed.) Thank you, all. My mom keeps saying "she's eating and she seems happy" but she's my Gertie, I know that look, she's tired and she's hurting. She's also lost ALOT of weight in the last month. She used to be a sausage, now her hips are boney (well, for her) and she just looks like a little old lady, fragile. Thanks again. :paw


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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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Rose, Gods blessing to you & your baby Gert! I know shes loves you with all her heart as you do her. They remain our babies always, even if we don't even get them 'til they're seniors, anyone here would agree. I'm sure that everyone here will share your sadness & support you in this decision, so often the most humane choice. Best wishes for you & your husband in all your circumstances, many have been where you are & understand. Love Jan & Trixie

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Rose: I'm so sorry - it's just so hard. There's no easy way around the fact that we always lose them too soon. Sending prayers for you and your family. I hope they'll let you stay with your little girl if you want to.

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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I'm so sorry. Most of us know what it's like to loose our furry babies.

Prayers for you and for Gerts. She knows you love her so and you've done so much for her in the past. They always say that you'll know when it's time.

You're in my thoughts.

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My thoughts will be with you tomorrow as you make this difficult decision. Perhaps if you explain the difficulty with finances your vet will help out.

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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Sandy H wrote:
My thoughts will be with you tomorrow as you make this difficult decision. Perhaps if you explain the difficulty with finances your vet will help out.


This was my thought too! If you have a long standing Vet, they might do this for free. My Vet did! So sorry that you and your girl have to go through this. It is never, never an easy decision. :cry

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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Thank you all, very much. I called around and found a vet that will do it for $40. I can afford that. The other two vets insisted on doing an exam first, which jumped the price to over $100. Sheesh, people, it's a hard enough decision to make without having a "professional" check to see if I'm making the right one. Thank you, going to make the appointment for Wednesday morning, my husband goes into work late that day and, since he helped me pick her out, he wants to be there when she goes. Thank you again.


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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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The next few days will be hard for you I am sure. Just know that I support you and know this has to be done out of love for your girl. Tell her that heaven is a beautiful place and she won't be hurting any more. Tell her to send you a postcard so you know she arrived there.

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prayers for you and Gert through this difficult time

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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I am sending you the biggest virtual hug possible. I know that you know we feel your heart breaking.

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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So sorry for your heartache in this difficult time. Peace be with you. :cry

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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Rose,
i've been thinking about you, your husband & Gert all day. just wanted you to know.
i hope Gert's journey was peaceful & i pray for peace for you & hubby too.

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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Just checking on you. I hope you reach out to the forum for prayers and support.

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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Awwww Rose... You say you don't know why you wanted to post this - but we do. We've all been there (some of us many times) and we understand and share your heartache.

Gert had a great life with a great mommy and daddy watching over her - even more so because even during a difficult time for you financially, you knew when it was time and took the steps to help her. Sending you a big hug and a smooch to heaven for little Gert. She knew she was loved and will be playing, healthy and happy on the other side. With every warm breeze, she'll be sending you loving puppy breath as she watches over you now.

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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I just wanted to send you a hug. I have been there, my Lily had cancer in a few spots and the last one was her mouth. I too had to make the decision and I know the pain you are in. :hp Just remember you loved her with all your heart and she loved you with all her heart. Take care.....

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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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Thank you everyone. It went as well as can be expected and we definitely found a vet. We just moved here last July, so we haven't really settled on a vet yet, but this guy was fantastic. The other vets I called all insisted on an examination (upping the charge $100) to decide if it was the right decision. This guy said to just bring her in. When we got there, the doc came in, pet her and loved her (like all vets I've met do on meeting a new dog) and went out to get his assistant. I was all geared up to defend my decision and was completely shocked when he didn't ask anything, so when he came back in I told him it was a hard decision and gave him a brief history of Gertie. He just smiled and said "Yeah, you noticed I didn't ask for a history." It wasn't snide or anything it was definitely "this is my profession and just by looking at her for two seconds, I know why you're doing this." It made me feel much better about everything. He then let us stay there through the entire thing, I scratched her ears while she was falling asleep, and then wrapped her up in a towel and let us bring her home to bury her. Hubby picked a great spot on the mountain and my daughter is going to help me plant a rosebush there. Gertie always liked playing in basil, but we live in the middle of the Nantahala National Forest and I don't want to encourage something to dig Gertie up, so roses sounded good. :sml It was the right decision, even though it wasn't the easy one. I told my mom yesterday morning I realized that for a while now, and I'm not sure how long I've been doing it, but every morning I would wake up and touch Gertie's abdomen to see if she was breathing. That probably should've been my first clue that things were bad, not an afterthought after I'd made the decision. Hindsight, right? Now, time to heal and save up the money for cocker spaniel number 2. I agree with my husband, no chocolates because I don't want to try to force the next one to be like Gertie. She'll be someone new and that's good thing. There's a lady on the other side of the mountain who has a 2 week old Blue Roan girl I might go look at soon. Never seen a blue roan cocker, might be interesting. Thank you all again very, very much. I'm sure there's many days of tears ahead, and my poor boxer mix is going to revert to peeing herself again because she'll wonder what's wrong with me, but we'll get through it. :lol2 I'll post a pic of Gerts down in the Rainbow Bridge thread, that's where she belongs now. :hp


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 Post subject: Re: I know I'm almost never here
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It sounds like you are at peace now. I am so happy for that. Gertie will always have fun memories in your mind. I am glad you have hubby there for support and love at this time.

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